How can I be a good man? How to improve yourself as a man?

I’m sure you ask yourself these questions quite a lot. We want to be the best possible version of ourselves and it’s completely reasonable to do so for others.

We don’t want to hold anyone back. So here’s how to be a better man.

You have to be capable in everything. A jack of all trades, but pretty good in all of them.

Everyone expects a man to be able to handle anything so if you’re not calm under pressure or much utility… people don’t look at you much as a man.

This means portraying strength and resilience in everything you do. If you cry the second you’re frustrated with something minor people will NOT look at you with respect, much less as a man.

So instead of prioritizing short-term pleasures, focus on delayed gratification since it’ll help you do harder stuff which will make people look at you more as a man.

It’s doing the things that have to be done, not the things that you feel like doing. That’s your responsibility as a man.

Discipline is a key facet of being looked at as a man.

Again, you’re going to have to be dependable. Someone to rely on whenever something goes wrong so this requires you to exhibit behaviors of being trustworthy.

Always treat people well. Even if they don’t reciprocate. Just try to stay away from them and don’t react negatively.

Always do the right thing when nobody’s looking. Look to embody a strong sense of integrity in your everyday life. Be honest. Follow through whenever you make promises to someone.

Keep people’s information secret and don’t blab on to people about it.

Always take accountability for your mistakes without letting yourself try to avoid it. People will sense this and they immediately will not trust you anymore. Just be honest.

Be transparent about things and your intentions.

Respect peoples’ boundaries whenever they put them up. Trying to bypass them will automatically make you go into the not trusted category so always avoid this. 

Overall, just show genuine care for the other person and treat them like you’d treat yourself.

“How to become a better man” is just being someone you’d want around.

Lying: Lies can damage credibility so never sort to this. You should be honest in almost every situation anyways.

Breaking Promises: This undermines reliability. No one wants to trust people who don’t keep their word.

Being Inconsistent: Acting differently based on the situation or people will make you look fake.

Gossiping: If you gossip about someone else then how are you supposed to trust them not talking behind your back?

Blaming Others: Refusing to take responsibility for your mistakes shows a lack of accountability.

Hiding Information: Being secretive can create suspicion.

Overpromising: Agreeing to things you can’t realistically deliver sets you up for failure.

Being Dismissive: Ignoring peoples’ feelings can make you seem uncaring or unreliable.

Favoritism: Treating people unequally or unfairly damages relationships.

Avoiding Difficult Conversations: Not addressing issues directly can lead to unresolved conflicts and misunderstandings.

A Good Man makes Everyone Comfortable and Smile

Have you ever had that experience where one certain person comes into the room and the whole mood changes?

You need to be doing that every single time you go into one.

People feel your energy so if you’re upset or experiencing any other negative emotion, they’ll start to feel the same way.

So smile and always try to change your emotions in the morning to a positive one.

Try talking with a smile on your face as you speak because then your words will actually have emotions behind them.

If you’re monotone, it’s not a feeling issue. It’s a “I don’t know what to do with my face” issue. 

The reason is because you just have a neutral facial expression most of the time while you’re speaking.

It’s a bad habit that will prevent you from connecting with other people. It doesn’t allow you to accurately express how you feel.

Whenever you’re trying to express emotion, focus on making the appropriate facial expression to match your current mood.

Focus on tonality and adding a little bit of rhythm to your voice.

People will HEAR that you’re happy. Your vocal image has a lot to do with building trust. Imagine someone’s telling you they’re feeling a certain way, but their voice doesn’t show that.

Second thing.

Work on your body language. It shouldn’t be fidgety, quick, or sporadic. 

It should be calm and controlled. That way, you don’t make anyone uncomfortable with your movements.

So smile and have cool body language.

You could also try being funny. Everyone loves a funny person. It’s also very easy to be funny.

There’s always a certain expectation or status quo that applies to a conversation or situation.

All you have to do is say something that breaks that expectation or status quo, but also isn’t random and perfectly applies to the situation.

It’s surprising and unexpected, but not random.

You could do this by saying something so exaggerated and unexpected about a situation but it still has to fit.

Use your language to find uncommon words or unusual ways to describe things.

So bring a positive mood, have calm body language, and be funny so that people feel comfortable and happy around you.

I hope this answered all your questions on how to be a better man. I know I sure needed something like this when I was so CURIOUS on how to become a better man.

I needed this when I wanted to know how to self improve as a man. 

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Take care.

Sincerely,

Damian Redfield