How to Stop Seeking Approval and Trust Yourself
How to Stop Seeking Approval
Everyone needs to be independent and make decisions on their own.
If they don’t, then they aren’t their own person. That means you’re not truly living according to what you want. You can never live true to yourself if your actions are affected by people’s opinions.
How to Overcome the Need for Validation
If you are constantly seeking the approval of others then that means you lack genuine confidence.
Relying on others opinions for self-worth suggests uncertainty about your own value. It means you aren’t sure about yourself. So instead of choosing to constantly put on band-aids, you must heal the wound.
Keep reading on how to overcome the need for validation. AKA build actual confidence.
How to Really Stop Caring What Others Think
You must build up your own value and recognize it.
You need to set standards for yourself and aim high. How do you expect to be confident if you haven’t gone out and done anything? Confidence is based on your past successes.
You can’t build past successes if you do not try and fail over and over again.
So you must try. Try and try. Until you obtain proof of past successes.
You stick to what you say and you make it reality. You don’t break your promise to your own word or decide to be lazy and make excuses for yourself. You know that you’re just betraying yourself in the end if you do.
Our minds understand that we are liars if we decide to say something, but don’t do it.
You need to build self-belief by challenging yourself and sticking through to the end. Only then will your mind know you are actually about it.
How to Build Trust in Myself
- Challenge yourself and actually put in work to build self-esteem
- You don’t need external approval because you know your value based on your past experiences.
- You can never truly be confident and trust in yourself if you constantly affirm yourself something but never prove it.
- Trust in yourself requires action and proof. This requires you to be a bit brave and take action regardless of how you feel.
That’s how to build trust in myself. Or yourself.
Other People’s Opinions Don’t Really Matter
People will always judge positively or negatively no matter what so you must actually know the truth.
You must know the actual truth about yourself of whether or not these are valid criticisms or opinions. If people praise you, it shouldn’t make you happier. You already knew you were putting in the work.
If people talk badly about you, then it doesn’t matter because it’s not true.
So stop seeking other people’s opinions and solely go for your own. Don’t delude yourself and lie to make yourself feel better because it won’t. The mind will always know that you’ve been lying to yourself.
The only way out of this mess is to build an actual opinion of yourself based on what you’ve done.
You are Capable of Becoming Better
Everyone has the choice of whether or not to improve or degrade.
If you’re weak or not capable right now, that doesn’t mean that will be the case in the future. Everything depends on the amount of effort and work you put into becoming the person you want to be.
Change is not out of your control and it’s possible to achieve.
You must let go of the past and focus on the future. Everything in life depends on what actions you take so building up self-worth and prioritizing action is the key. You must really learn how to really stop caring what others think if you want to do anything exceptional.
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